As twentieth high school reunions go, I'm thinking mine was a little lame. No major blowups, no tearful confessions, no hookups.
(That I saw anyway.)
My high school's reunion was on the Saturday after Thanksgiving, so I'm assuming most of the people attending either have family who still live in the area or they themselves still live in the area. Fifty some of us milled around our town community center for a somewhat stilted cocktail party.
There were people there I didn't talk to in high school. And OH LOOK I STILL DIDN'T TALK TO THEM. But it was so different this time. When we didn't speak in high school, I was positive it was because there was something wrong with me. Surely they were passing judgment on my spiral perm or finding me lacking in other major ways, perhaps my inability to correctly peg my jeans. And while it's totally possible this was happening then, and - WHO KNOWS - now, I find the difference is this: I don't care.
Like, I REALLY don't care.
I am surprised by how little I care. I spoke with the people I really wanted to see, met significant others, and even chatted with a few people who wandered past or joined conversations I was already in. I thoroughly enjoyed seeing the people I saw and catching up on their lives. Everyone else was just there.
On the schadenfreude level, there is something refreshing about seeing that the popular kids have aged just like the rest of us. We're all a little thicker, a little more wrinkled. Intellectually I knew this, but seeing it person, and realizing on an emotional level that they are just people, feels like a balm on my inner tenth grade soul. It retroactively changes my perception of high school. They are people. They WERE people. They weren't gods. They didn't lead perfect lives.
This reunion allowed for an integration that I didn't know I needed. I can integrate who these people were then with who they are now. I can integrate who I was then with who I am now. My inner tenth grader is soothed and calmed and feeling a whole lot better about herself.
Have you gone to a high school reunion? How was it?